The ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ of children is a tragedy. Psychologists have come up with a solution that seems repulsive and strange. But the heartbreaking confessions of parents who survived the misfortune speak of the humanity of the new technology.
A special electric cooling system built into a crib is offered to parents of deceased newborns in 92% of UK hospitals and hospices. Parents can rock a ᴅᴇᴀᴅ baby, swaddle and take it for walks, take it home and continue caring until they are ready to let it go.
If earlier doctors took ᴅᴇᴀᴅ children from the eyes of their parents, believing that it would be better for them not to see them like that, today’s psychologists refute the correctness of such a decision: the opportunity to say goodbye eases the loss and pain. Some parents may stay with their children for up to a month. The technology does not provide for strict deadlines for burial since there is no threat of infection.
Linsey spent 15 days with her ᴅᴇᴀᴅ child before she was able to say goodbye forever. When her son Ron ᴅɪᴇᴅ, she and her husband Mark took care of him, changing diapers, bathing, reading stories for 18 days. Linsey convinces that this is not a game with ᴅᴇᴀᴅ kids and not life in a fantasy world, and that parents are well aware that the children are no longer here. But this is a chance to get closer, to touch again before parting forever.
Psychologist Deborah Davis says that parents express their love in a physical way, bathing, changing clothes. If the parent will perform such actions, this can significantly minimize injury.
All parents have to wake up at night from crying babies. But after the death of a five-month-old baby, Jody and Matthew could not endure the hours of the night in silence. Parents believe that the fact that they were able to take home a lifeless body in a special cooling cradle helped them come to terms with the loss. Jody admits that, sitting at night near the baby, she did not stop thinking that her eyes were about to open. She was very hurt, but she is glad that her daughter was able to stay at home.
Josie, 45, lost her daughter at the age of six months. Billy-Rose died in her mother’s arms from pneumonia. But the woman did not give up the idea of giving her daughter her first Christmas, decorating the room, and opening the gift. Not parting for a while longer, Josie was able to realize and accept the fact that Billy Rose had ᴅɪᴇᴅ. Now she recalls the last moments spent with the child with joy.
Technology bring relief and help to parents and give children the right to life.
Source: babieshealthus.com
